Healthy Families Have These Characteristics
Love And Compassion
Open and Respectful Communication
For a family to communicate at the highest level, it needs to be open and honest in the talks, family members need to be respectful of each other, and listening (not just hearing) to what is being said are basic skills.
Everyone must have a voice in the conversation, even the family cat!
Acceptance of Each OtherHealthy families accept each other as individuals and as part of the family system. This acceptance indicates that the family will abide by you throughout good and bad times. While behavior may not be accepted (i.e., such as drinking and drugging) the person is always accepted.
Collaboration And Involvement
Families that work together and play together are healthier than those who don’t. This involvement is significant for bonding both on an individual level and on the family level. Eating meals together, being involved in the kids’ school and after-school events, taking the children to work to show them what the jobs are like, having friends visit, visiting with other relatives, and doing leisure activities such playing Pokemon Go, taking walks together, or playing board games are invaluable for healthy living.
Each person needs to validate each other through love and compassion no matter what the trial or tribulation. As above, the behavior may not be accepted, but the love is always there (even when we want to throttle someone).
Healthy Coping Skills
Because life is not always easy or simple, a family has both individual and family coping skills to use when dealing with the difficult times. These coping skills can be in these 5 areas:
- Physical: taking care of the basics such as healthy meals, enough sleep, exercise, and hygiene, and basic safety;
- Emotional: being able to feel feelings and talk about them with the family, journal, cry or laugh, talk to a teacher or counselor at school, go for family therapy, write/draw/dance/sing and participate in other creative emotional outlets, jog/walk/exercise out the feelings;
- Intellectual: read, write, have deep discussions with family members or others, study, learn, teach; do puzzles or healthy video games, do creative activities;
- Social/relational: having time with family and others together while also having alone time for we need to also have a relationship with self such as reading, meditating, writing, or doing yoga or tai chi;
- Spiritual: having a sense of communion with a higher essence, being with others including the family, taking walks in nature, having fun, being creative, going to a religious ceremony or spiritual event, reading religious/spiritual books, meditating, prayer, being alone.
All of these are healthy family characteristics. Look back over these. You may find your family in the middle. Look over them again. You may find new ideas for a healthier family.